Check out the highlights from our recent interview with Ed Mylett on building self-confidence and bouncing back from what life throws our way.
Ed Mylett is a businessman, author, thought leader, coach and a close friend who’s dedicated his life to helping others reach their goals and #maxout every opportunity that comes their way.
Heidi and I recently joined him on his popular podcast to talk about the importance of self-confidence in lasting transformation and the most valuable promises of all: the ones we make to ourselves.
Read on for the top highlights from our interview and check out the full episode below!
Several years ago, after a severe back injury, I was prescribed opiates to help manage my pain and ended up becoming addicted. The opiates helped numb my physical pain, but they also helped alleviate the shame and sadness I felt after a poor investment resulted in a big financial loss.
While struggling with my addiction, I lost everything and was living in my car and on friends’ couches. This was one of the most trying and difficult times in my life. I was forced to confront the root issues that helped lead to my addiction, but my eventual recovery actually taught me a very important life lesson: the importance of empathy.
For years I had been training and coaching clients by giving them strict diets and rules so they could lose weight. It was only after my struggle with addiction that I truly understood the role addiction plays in all of our lives.
We all turn to unhealthy habits to cover up pain and trauma, and it’s only when we’re able to accept and love ourselves (flaws and all) that we can truly transform our lives. Without my own struggles I never would have been able to connect with my clients in this way, and it’s a lesson we can all learn from.
Our tests become our testimony. Our struggles prepare us for greatness.
Shortly after when I was still living out of my car, I ended up running away to Los Angeles. A buddy of mine landed me a few gigs with production companies and when I finally had the chance to pitch my idea, I went for it. I stood up and said, “I have an idea for a show that helps contestants lose insane amounts of weight in a single season. I want to be the Ty Pennington of weight loss.
Fast forward a little… the casting producer asked Heidi and I to drive out to LA two more times from Arizona. We were flat broke, mapping out our plans on whiteboards. One day, I finally got the call.
“ABC is picking up your show."
I was so shocked I nearly dropped the phone! Once I recovered, I asked who the host was going to be. Some famous trainer? A celebrity?
Long pause… “They want YOU.”
All I could think was, “Oh crap. Am I ready for this?”
This is what Ed and I call the “Uh-oh” moment. It’s that terrifying realization that you’re stepping into your dream. And if you don’t have this response to an opportunity offered to you, it’s because you’re not playing big enough.
Achieving our dreams comes with risk and sacrifice. So if you’re not scared and thinking, “Can I handle this?” when it’s your time to step forward and fight for your dreams, you need to re-evaluate.
So, what does this have to do with self-confidence?
Transformation is impossible without self-love. In order to really achieve your goals and make lifelong improvements, you need to keep the promises you make to yourself. Promises like…
I promise I’m going to stay disciplined.
I promise I won’t give up on myself.
Because if you don’t love and accept yourself, you’ll break every promise you make, and you become that much further away from your goals.
In order to build your self-love and self-belief…
Make yourself a priority and love yourself enough to honor the promises you make.
Give yourself one goal, as simple as drinking a few glasses of water a day, and do it for two weeks. This gives POWER to your mindset so you never lose momentum. And once you’ve achieved the first power promise, add another.
Speaking your goals and intentions out loud makes them more real and makes you more accountable. But this is only the first part of the solution. Speak your goals, then DO IT. Even starting with the smallest of actions will jumpstart you towards quicker results and a life of transformation.
For more self-confidence tips, watch the full podcast episode here.